Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause....guilt free.

For a lot of us, self-care can be accompanied by guilt. The grind culture way of modern life can be unsustainable. Our self-worth is often tied to output. Never ending to-do lists, multitasking, constantly being accessible and ‘on’ and squeezing in time for others is something we put a lot of emphasis and pride in. Whether we realise it or not, how much we’re juggling often determines our self-worth.

And yet many of us feel a little guilty when we take time out to rest, finally have a day off, or at least a little bit less of a busy day than usual. Instead of relaxing and taking time to ourselves to rest and restore, we make ourselves feel guilty. Even on days off, we often push the self-care aspects of our day late in the day as a reward. Almost like I need to achieve this rest time, to prove to myself that I deserve it.

Self-care is putting the care of ourselves first. And when we’re caring for others (paid or unpaid) self care is a priority and a necessity, not a luxury, in the work that we do.

Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you. Self care is more than just a special luxury that we can treat ourselves to. It’s a priority and necessity because if we don’t allow ourselves to take the care we need, we would not be able to be well, and wouldn’t be the best versions of ourselves.

Giving oneself permission to rest and restore guilt-free involves recognising rest as a necessity for well-being and challenging the ingrained belief that productivity equates to worth. It's about reframing rest as an investment in your health and happiness, rather than a reward for hard work, and actively choosing to prioritise your needs.

Ways to cultivate a guilt-free approach to rest

1. Acknowledge the Need for Rest

• Recognise that rest is not a luxury but a necessity for both physical and mental wellbeing.

• Understand that rest allows you to be more present and effective in other areas of your life.

• Challenge the belief that rest is a sign of laziness or weakness.
  
  2. Reframe Rest as an Investment

• Instead of seeing rest as a reward, view it as an investment in your energy, focus, and overall well-being.

• Understand that taking breaks can actually boost productivity in the long run by preventing burnout.

• Consider the long-term benefits of rest, such as increased resilience and creativity. 
  
  3. Challenge the Inner Critic

• Identify and challenge the negative thoughts and beliefs that lead to guilt around resting.

• Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you deserve rest, just like anyone else.

• Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations about the importance of rest. 
  
  4. Set Boundaries

• Establish clear boundaries between work and rest to create dedicated time for relaxation.

• Communicate your needs to others and prioritise your well-being in social situations.

• Consider scheduling rest time just as you would schedule work or other commitments.
  
  5. Practice Active Rest

• Engage in activities that help you recharge and de-stress, such as spending time in nature, reading, or practicing mindfulness.

• Experiment with different types of rest to find what works best for you. Remember that rest can take many forms, from a short nap to a retreat getaway. 
  
  6. Seek Support

• Talk to a therapist if you're struggling to overcome guilt about resting. 

• Connect with others who prioritise self-care and can offer support and encouragement.

• Share your experiences and challenges with others to feel less alone in your journey.
  
  By actively challenging negative beliefs, setting boundaries, and prioritising self-care, you can cultivate a guilt-free approach to rest and experience the many benefits it offers. 
  

What would you do with a moment that’s just for you?

While it can be tricky to carve out time for your own self-care, this will benefit not only you but everyone around you. Taking a break away from your busy environment is a big first step. We're here to meet and support you where you're at, and look forward to taking good care of you.

• No demands or deadlines.

• No screens or being ‘on’.

• No one else’s expectations.

• No where you have to be, or person you have to be.

• Choose to do as much or as little as you wish.

• Experience the art of ‘being’.

• Take a moment to pause at Rest & Restore Wellness Retreat.